The
next four updates will bring you some tools you can use to understand
the people you deal with every day. Instead of thinking of 12 signs
we will concentrate of four divisions of 12. The “elements” Fire, Earth,
Air, and Water describe three signs each. This week we will take a look
at the Element, Fire. Keep in mind that we are combinations of all four.
The idea is to analyze the one that seems to dominate.
Why
does it matter?
We
all need the help of others. From the time you start your day until
you go to bed at night, one of the most important tasks facing you is
to communicate effectively with the people you encounter during the
day. This connection may be casual or intimate. For example: You may
not know the person who pours your first cup of coffee or you may have
been living with them for years. You may be the person serving the coffee.
In any case, your contact can be pleasant, agreeable, and positive or
it may be troubling, annoying, and set your teeth on edge. That encounter
can set the tone for the whole day.
Who
sets the tone?
That
is a hard one to answer because it is our perception of the experience
that becomes our reality. Do you consider yourself to be a happy, positive
person in the morning? Or perhaps you prefer to be left alone until
you are really awake, at around noon. What I call the “quick starters”
are annoyed by people who are “slow starters”. Slow starters are equally
as annoyed by the quick-start person who is jolly and bouncing around
and eager to get going.
How
does this apply to one’s family?
Someone
said, “You can choose your friends but family is a package deal; what
you see is what you get”. So what do you do when one person takes the
view, “I am who I am and I hope you can adjust”? Another person feels
martyred, “Everyone expects me to adjust to his or her personality,
how about me and what I want?”
Fire
signs: Aries, Leo, Sagittarius are the ones to start the action.
The
Fire person is spontaneous, and takes a “Me first” position. “I want
what I want and I want it NOW, I really wanted it yesterday, but at
the very least I should have it today!” They express emotion as they
feel it. They tend to be enthusiastic, confident, dramatic and fun companions.
They are often considered by other signs to be self-centered and foolish
risk takers. Yet they are generous when it occurs to them. They will
encourage you to have fun, to play and to enjoy life more. They are
restless and may find an excuse to travel or to gamble in business.
If the person has a zest for life, they may have a strong Fire statement
in their chart. The world would be pretty dull without their irrepressible
energy.
