Some of the most
memorable times in our lives often involve one on one relationships that
were warm, loving and harmonious. It may have been a day at the beach
with your three-year-old child. The conversation may have been confined
to little squeals of delight as she discovered shells and sand crabs.
Somehow, the sun was just warm enough, the breeze soft, and the sky an
azure blue. The idyllic mood was enhanced by the tender loving feelings
that flowed easily between mother and child
Your favorite memory
may center on your first love. This intelligent person who laughed at
your jokes, seemed to understand what you meant to say instead of the
actual words, and selected the same food you were ready to order. Is there
a more delicious feeling than finding someone who is a lot like you but
with a delightful difference?
All you have to do
is substitute your own memory that brings a smile to your lips and a song
in your heart. My question for you is this, “Did it last? Were you able
to remember the good times when the child wore your best shoes outside
in the rain? At what point did that first love bore you to death because
they were so much like you that there were no surprises and no sparks?
One of the important
aspects of my job as an Astrologer is to act as “interpreter”. I help
translate the language of astrology into real life. Often the goal is
to help my client understand how to bring more harmony into an existing
relationship with a child, parent, lover or life mate. As I have previously
mentioned in the Insights article, “Relationships: Defining Your Needs”,
one goal is to get your intellectual, emotional, and spiritual needs met.
I offered a few suggestions about how one might go about reaching this
lofty goal.
Comparing the planet
Mercury and its astrological sign and complex of aspects with the Mercury
of another person can be very revealing in judging where communication
takes place and where it breaks down. Mercury is the symbol for the way
you think, process information and communicate with those around you.
If Mercury was “retrograde” (apparent motion moving backward against the
signs) at your birth, it creates a real dilemma in trying to make yourself
understood. A close connection between Mercury and the Moon can create
confusion because of the mixing of logic and emotions when you become
upset. None of these factors is insurmountable if you understand the difference
between your way of expressing your thoughts and the person with whom
you are trying to communicate.
For example: Many
years ago, when I was a novice, I was struggling to grasp why my client
had so many wonderful aspects between her chart and that of her love interest
and still had one misunderstanding after another. The Venus/Mars connection
made it clear that they would be romantically and sexually drawn to each
other. A nice aspect between the Sun in one chart and Venus in the other
was a further indication of genuine affection. When I discussed this with
one of my mentors, she asked, “Can they talk to each other?” Of course
they can talk. At this point she began to explain that many factors in
the chart would indicate what each person expects a particular word to
represent. If I say ‘money’ I connect it to my family values. (The sign
Cancer on my money house indicates that money and the way my family handled
money is a factor). I may be talking to a partner who feels that there
will always be plenty of money. (Jupiter or the sign Sagittarius linked
to the money house). Same word; different meaning.
I began to realize
that values, identity (who we believe our selves to be) family messages,
ego needs and emotional attachments to certain kinds of behavior could
either enhance the communication or in some cases block it altogether.
We are all very complex individuals and go about our daily lives doing
the best we can to maintain harmonious relationships with those with whom
we interact every day. As one author points out, we really do come with
instructions or an “operating manual”. It is called a birth chart. Learning
to use this information can help you capture more of those memorable,
unforgettable moments.
