Astrology provides
a language for expressing some of our most deeply held thoughts. The question
is, “Do you speak the language?” When you received your Astrology
Report based upon the date, time, and place of your birth, you had all
of the pieces that make up the “words” in your very personal
story. My Insights articles are aimed at helping make sentences out of
the words.
For example: Your
Sun in Aries in the 6th house is a statement that is only the first sentence.
The next sentence could read, Your Ego needs (Sun) are strongly focused
upon your own ability to make decisions for yourself without interference
or contradiction from others. (Aries: self directed and confident) the
next sentence is more difficult. Your Sun in Aries is stifled by having
to learn methods and perform tasks set down by someone else.
Suppose instead we
focus upon the Moon in your report. Let’s suppose the first sentence
is, Your Moon is in Libra in the 4th house. The report tells you the Moon
is about emotions and your relationship with your Mom and other family
members. That helps a little but if your Moon is in Libra. You need to
understand the second sentence. Your emotional response (Moon) is held
back by a parent tape that tells you to hold back any feelings that will
not be socially acceptable. The next sentence may read like this. The
4th house influence suggests that your Mother (or the person who was your
caretaker) put a high value in making sure the family was well mannered,
(Libra) and looked good to the neighbors.
In our example, the
word that describes your Sun in Aries is not in harmony with your Moon
in Libra. Aries doesn’t necessarily see the value of being polite
when they would rather tell you what they REALLY think.
You can put this
all together with some thoughtful study of the “words” for
each planet in your own chart. You can notice when the ideas they represent
seem to be in harmony and when they seem to be in contradiction to each
other. We are all made up of a combination of easy aspects and discordant
ones. When the relationship between the Sun (Ego) and the Moon (emotions)
is harmonious, it is much easier to get a feeling that you are loved and
supported in being who you are. When they are not in harmony, you are
likely to store memories of events when you were disappointed, lonely,
and hurt because no one seemed to be there to comfort you, especially
when you were a very young child.
A journey down memory
lane may provide clues to whether you stored more happy memories or sad
memories. Even without knowing if your Sun/Moon connection is harmonious
or discordant, you can ask yourself questions using “trigger”
word associations. For example: words like birthday, school, vacation,
picnic. (Make a list of “happy” words). Make a list of painful
words: Cold, scraped knee, hungry, lonely, and tears. (Choose the words
that bring a lump in your throat or tears to your eyes.) Now you are ready
to discover how well you felt you were cared for and nurtured by the person
you looked to for that support.
In my years of talking
to many clients, I have discovered that a small event can carry an emotional
message that can be out of all proportion to what it seems on the surface.
If it mattered to you, it is very important. No matter if no one else
even remembers or if they remember the event differently, it is your happiness
or your pain and you decide how important it is. Do you remember the time
in the second grade when the teacher picked your picture to show to the
class as an example of good design? (Insert your own memory).
On perhaps some of
the “trigger” words you wrote down caused you to remember
the time when you had a new baby sitter who became angry when you cried
for your parents to return. Fifteen minutes can seem like forever when
you are frightened. You may have recalled being “lost” in
a department store while shopping with you Mother.
By now you should
be aware of how important emotional comfort is to your personality. How
are you supported by your memories? Or how do you attempt to compensate
for sadness that stems from early hurts your “inner child”
still feels? Your chart will help you answer some of these questions:
· Who was it that nurtured and cared for you when you were very
small?
· Did they get it “right”?
· How do you want to be nurtured or cared for?
· How do you nurture others and show you care for them?
· Do you believe that you can ever get your emotional needs met?
· Who nurtures you now? (Parent, sibling, friend, lover, mate,
other)
